Deep down we all crave attention, validation, acceptance and appreciation because we all want to be LOVED. God created us as social beings to give and receive love.
However, although many of us yearn to be valued and appreciated by others, we are so harsh and unloving to ourselves! Does this ring any bells?
Here are 10 signs that you are being too hard on yourself:
- You regularly engage in hardcore sessions of introspection and only seem to discover all of your flaws.
- You find it hard to celebrate your success and are fixed on the belief that there is a long way to go before you will be able to deserve a reward for your success.
- You can never accept praise or a compliment from others because of point 2.
- You blame yourself for all the bad things that have happened to you in the past without taking external factors into consideration and holding others accountable.
- You cannot seem to let go of the bad things you have done in the past and you constantly think about what you would be today if you had made better choices in life. You also dwell on your mistakes for lengthy periods of time instead of accepting them as part of a learning process and moving on.
- You are constantly comparing yourselves to others. You may find yourself on the game of ‘keep up with the Joneses’ or wallowing in despair because you simply cannot keep up.
- You don’t know how to relax and be kind to yourself. You cannot just live in the present and enjoy the blessings in your life right now.
- Because you are always striving to be the better version of yourself, you never allow yourself to embrace who you are right now and see the good qualities you possess.
- You often receive criticism that comes from others as confirmation of the views you hold for yourself. You may expect others to be hard on you and therefore see it as acceptable, which can open the doors for abusers to walk right in.
- You have trouble sleeping at night because you are always overthinking everything.
Next, we will focus on ways to become more self appreciative…