Healing can be difficult, it is certainly not straightforward The journey has twist and turns and sometimes unexpected surprises. Nevertheless, I would like to share three simple steps to help you heal. These are relevant wherever you are in healing. Whether you are just beginning to think about maybe getting help, you are motivated to change and is actively accessing support or you have started and is enjoying the journey of self-discovery and love the new you that’s emerging.
Three simple steps to help heal
1. Honestly, Communicate my Needs
Honestly describe your need to the people around you. When you are in a place of uncertainty, pain and need healing it is important that you are honest with those around you as well as with yourself.
Own your current position.
Acknowledge the way you are feeling for example, are you angry, sad or frustrated.
Notice your internal dialogue and try to identify the root. For example, is shame or self-hate a part of your internal dialogue. Notice how they make you feel.
When you communicate your needs you might be pleasantly surprised that people will respond and help.
2. Prayer and meditation
Prayer is a crucial part of these steps. Sometimes prayer might be periods of silences as you allow yourself to fully experience the feelings and make sense of the emotions that might be swirling around.
Silence will give you time to be still, in stillness your body gets time to adjust and your state of arousal (trigger) will lessen. This will allow you to make decisions that are based on facts and not how you might be feeling at that time.
Silences will help you hear not only your body but any direction or next steps that will help you through your current situation.
Honestly communicated your need to someone who will be able to not only offer feedback but who can also help you to reflect and make choices..
As you go through different experiences identifying and using support appropriately will be the difference between receiving healing and freedom or staying stuck in an unhealthy dysfunction.
The Power of all Three
Communication, prayer, and support are all necessary ingredients for healing. Sometimes people mistakenly use one or two and not the combination of all three when this happens healing could be delayed.