Safe Relationship Guide – Level 1

Equipping Pastors and Leaders to Recognise, Respond to, and Prevent Abuse

22 September – 13 October 2025

Why This Training?

For over 20 years, I have worked in the field of abuse prevention and recovery—supporting victims, training leaders, and building safe spaces for healing. In 2024, I authored the End It Now program, “Go Find My Sheep,” a global initiative by the Seventh-day Adventist Church calling the church to intentionally seek out and protect the vulnerable.

This training was born out of a clear need:

• Safeguarding training is essential, but it only provides the what.
• Pastors and leaders also need the how—the practical, biblical skills to support victims and protect the vulnerable within the unique context of church ministry.

The Safe Relationship Guide – Level 1 provides that missing link.

What You’ll Learn

Over four weeks, you’ll gain clarity, confidence, and tools to address abuse with wisdom and compassion.

Week 1 – Understanding Vulnerabilities and Grooming

• ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) and how they create vulnerabilities
• Grooming tactics in both secular and church contexts
• Love bombing, targeting, and features of narcissistic relationships
• Stages of grooming
• Practical Tool: Red flag checklist

Week 2 – Recognising Abuse

• Signs of emotional, physical, sexual, financial, and spiritual abuse
• Distinguishing sexual abuse from domestic abuse
• Cycle of Abuse: Tension → Incident → Reconciliation → Calm
• Power & Control Wheel – how abusers manipulate
• Practical Tool: Spot-the-pattern worksheet

Week 3 – Narcissistic Abuse vs. Other Abuse

• Unique features of narcissistic abuse (gaslighting, devaluing, and discarding)
• Differences from other abuse types
• Profile of an abuser: charm, charisma, spiritual masks
• Practical Tool: Narcissistic vs. other abuse comparison chart

Week 4 – Responding and Supporting Victims

• Language that heals vs. language that harms
• Biblical forgiveness vs. enabling harm
• Forgiveness and reconciliation – how to discern the difference
• Listening and responding with a person-centred, Christ-like approach
• Practical Tool: Safe conversation guide for leaders

Why It’s Different from Safeguarding Training

• Safeguarding = mandatory compliance, policies, reporting obligations
• Safe Relationship Guide = deeper understanding of abuse dynamics, spiritual dimensions, and the unique challenges victims face in Christian settings
• It equips leaders to listen, support, and shepherd wisely—without minimising harm or misusing Scripture

Who This Is For

✅ Pastors
✅ Elders
✅ Ministry leaders
✅ Safeguarding officers
✅ Anyone serving in a position of trust within the church

Program Format

📅 Dates: 22 September – 13 October 2025
🕒 Schedule: One session per week (20–30 minutes teaching + discussion + practical tools)
📍 Location: Online (Zoom)
💷 Investment: £247

Biblical Foundation

“The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives… to set at liberty them that are bruised.” – Luke 4:18

This training will help you live out this calling in your ministry.

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Let’s work together to make the church the safest place on earth—for every sheep Christ has entrusted to us.