Wounds To Scars

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  • 4 Tips on Emotional Healing

    4 Tips on Emotional Healing

    We experience emotional distress in different ways. The key to minimising the damage from this distress is to learn and implement things that can help to combat the loss.

    Here are four things that you can do that will help with emotional healing.

    Love yourself
     Loving yourself needs time and practice. Both are necessary because perhaps for many love was not a feature of day to day life. Maybe you are accustomed to aggression, distancing and silence. When this was your reality learning to love yourself is crucial to healing. Surround you with people who offer kindness, compassion and sympathy. Find the ones that can be empathic and self-less. When you do, model their behaviour in learning to love you.

    For further instructions read books on how others practice self-love. Books are a great source of inspiration and information.

    Accept yourself
     Self-acceptance can be hard when we have not had that modelled to you. Through love and acceptance once from the people around us, we can learn self-acceptance through education.

    Accept love

    Sometimes it’s difficult to accept love when we’ve experienced hurt. At those times letting people, and learning to trust can be hard. However, healing means allowing people in because we heal in relationships. In these relationships, you will learn how to love and allowed your self to accept love.

    Mindset matters
     Emotional distress can be heightened through the thoughts we think. Learning to manage negative automatic thoughts will be a game changer in how you approach healing.

  • Healing your life through understanding your emotions

    Healing your life through understanding your emotions

    When we are intelligent to our feelings, it makes it easier to solve our problems, and we can also help others with their questions.

    Understanding your emotions can be challenging when perhaps you’ve spent your life avoiding them. Sometimes this avoidance was useful, and it may have kept you safe.

    However, being able to talk about emotions is healthy. The help of a skilled professional might be necessary to help you to access feelings that have been on lockdown.

    Overwhelmed
     Sometimes there is a fear that if you access emotions, you might become overwhelmed and will not be able to cope.
    Keeping you safe
    It is essential to understand your emotions and have a plan to deal with them. For example, if you are prone to having an overwhelming sadness, having a plan in place could help. The key to its success lies in communicating this plan to the people around you that care about you and your healing. Let people know what they can do to help, be specific.

    Triggers
     It would also be helpful for you to know your triggers; recognising triggers will help you become aware of things early and can get help to activate your plan. Notice whether they are internal or external triggers, when are you most likely to experience triggers.

    Pattern
     Are you aware of any trend in your emotions? paying close attention to things such as trends will help give you control.

  • Forgiving yourself is crucial to healing

    Forgiving yourself is crucial to healing

    Forgiveness is a complicated issue for many. The topic is challenging because it requires facing and dealing with severe problems. Often to forgive means accepting uncomfortable behaviours.

    Forgiveness is liberating

    Many works at forgiving others but when it relates to forgiving self, it becomes harder. Sometimes being hard on ourselves is a pattern learnt early in life. Either through what you saw around you or through the criticism and negative messages of others.

    It becomes normal to rehearse the things you do that are wrong, highlighting the mistakes you made. Somehow not forgiving yourself faults almost acts like justification. Our sense of justice demands that someone suffer and sometimes that person is you.

    Forgiving yourself is essential to healing.
    When you forgive yourself, you can open yourself up to love. Unforgiveness close you off from joy, peace and contentment.

  • Surviving Sexual Abuse can be hard. Here are 4 practices that can help.

    Surviving Sexual Abuse can be hard. Here are 4 practices that can help.

    Sexual abuse touch the deepest parts of us. Without earnest, preserving effort, healing will not be possible.
    The journey can start with therapy, retreats, self-help books, help from the community and friends.
    The potential for healing is enhanced when undertaken in a safe place with a trained professional.

    I have listed four reasons many struggles to embark on the journey.

    Shame
    Shame has different presentations at different ages and stages of our lives. Sexual trauma is perhaps one of the most significant areas that influence shame. Many negative emotions are the fruit of shame.
    You might experience shame because your body responds; This is a natural process, but because shame is grounded in lies, you have to go in search of the truth. However, it will take time and help to deconstruct, process and separate what is the truth.

    Practice – telling yourself the truth often, don’t distance yourself from people. Sometimes they reflect positivity that can help to combat shame. Learning how to receive and use the feedback can be a source of healing.

    Details
    As they say, the devil is in the details, and this is also true for survivors of sexual trauma. Sometimes there is an overarching obsession with more information, there can be a constant rehearsing of the details in your mind; this can produce anxiety and other conditions.

    Practice. Learn techniques that help you to relax whenever you are tempted to rehearse details. Try to stay present, enjoy simple activities that will help to build positive memories and give the brain something where else to focus.

    The neglected child
    Learning to love your wounded self is essential to healing and emotionally healthy life. However many struggles to love and accept the wounded child. Getting to know and love her is a critical part of overcoming. Sharing is crucial because you have information that is vital to her healing. You can share love and acceptance with her that perhaps no one else has ever had.

    Practice: sharing information with her that will help to soothe her in times of difficulties. Speak to her with kindness and sympathy. Use a gentle tone and compassion to give her information. Tell her that you will keep her safe.

    Avoidance
    Avoidance might be easy as the people that are around you pretended it never happened. At times they would prefer it if you do the same. Avoidance shows up in many ways, self-neglect, not eating, failing to access support or telling yourself you can do this without anyone.

    Practice: talking to yourself about it. Use journaling as a way of externalising feelings. Getting feeling out in the open will help you become more comfortable with acknowledging things to yourself.