Safe Relationship Guide – Level 1
Equipping Pastors and Leaders to Recognise, Respond to, and Prevent Abuse
22 September – 13 October 2025
Why This Training?
For over 20 years, I have worked in the field of abuse prevention and recovery—supporting victims, training leaders, and building safe spaces for healing. In 2024, I authored the End It Now program, “Go Find My Sheep,” a global initiative by the Seventh-day Adventist Church calling the church to intentionally seek out and protect the vulnerable.
This training was born out of a clear need:
- Safeguarding training is essential, but it only provides the what.
- Pastors and leaders also need the how—the practical, biblical skills to support victims and protect the vulnerable within the unique context of church ministry.
The Safe Relationship Guide – Level 1 provides that missing link.
What You’ll Learn
Over four weeks, you’ll gain clarity, confidence, and tools to address abuse with wisdom and compassion.
Week 1 – Understanding Vulnerabilities and Grooming
- ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) and how they create vulnerabilities
- Grooming tactics in both secular and church contexts
- Love bombing, targeting, and features of narcissistic relationships
- Stages of grooming
- Practical Tool: Red flag checklist
Week 2 – Recognising Abuse
- Signs of emotional, physical, sexual, financial, and spiritual abuse
- Distinguishing sexual abuse from domestic abuse
- Cycle of Abuse: Tension → Incident → Reconciliation → Calm
- Power & Control Wheel – how abusers manipulate
- Practical Tool: Spot-the-pattern worksheet
Week 3 – Narcissistic Abuse vs. Other Abuse
- Unique features of narcissistic abuse (gaslighting, devaluing, and discarding)
- Differences from other abuse types
- Profile of an abuser: charm, charisma, spiritual masks
- Practical Tool: Narcissistic vs. other abuse comparison chart
Week 4 – Responding and Supporting Victims
- Language that heals vs. language that harms
- Biblical forgiveness vs. enabling harm
- Forgiveness and reconciliation – how to discern the difference
- Listening and responding with a person-centred, Christ-like approach
- Practical Tool: Safe conversation guide for leaders
Why It’s Different from Safeguarding Training
- Safeguarding = mandatory compliance, policies, reporting obligations
- Safe Relationship Guide = deeper understanding of abuse dynamics, spiritual dimensions, and the unique challenges victims face in Christian settings
- It equips leaders to listen, support, and shepherd wisely—without minimising harm or misusing Scripture
Who This Is For
✅ Pastors
✅ Elders
✅ Ministry leaders
✅ Safeguarding officers
✅ Anyone serving in a position of trust within the church
Program Format
📅 Dates: 22 September – 13 October 2025
🕒 Schedule: One session per week (20–30 minutes teaching + discussion + practical tools)
📍 Location: Online (Zoom)
💷 Investment: £247
Biblical Foundation
“The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives… to set at liberty them that are bruised.” – Luke 4:18
This training will help you live out this calling in your ministry.
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Let’s work together to make the church the safest place on earth—for every sheep Christ has entrusted to us.