Whatever life has decided to give you at this moment, do not give up until you have tried these three things.
Change your Self-talk
What you tell yourself about your situation will be pivotal to your ability to overcoming and not giving up. Repeating the voices around you can distract and get you off course. They can divert you from fulfilling your purpose, meeting your goals and keeping promises that you made to yourself.
Bring your internal dialogue into line with who God says you are and what He says about you. Know that and believe that and you will begin to see and hear your internal discourse change. For more help with changing yourself, talk read here https://www.woundstoscars.com/controlling-negative-automatic-thoughts/
Tell yourself the truth
Sometimes we downplay our experiences, brush them under the carpet, try to forget them by burying them under food, dysfunctional relationships, drugs, sex or the list can go on. Nevertheless, telling yourself the truth might be owning that this situation has been happening, the event occurred, accepting that you are hurt, was wounded and is still hurting. Telling yourself the truth might be admitting that you can make it. You can change, you can grow through your current situation.
Right, here might be the place where you chose to stop believing the lies told to you. Lies such as; you are not good enough, you do not have what it takes to move on, survive, change, erect and maintain boundaries and learn to spot unsafe people.
Telling yourself the truth might mean telling you that you will make it, that you have made that decision. The one that took years but now that you have done it, everything will be okay. You have what it takes to survive this season. Look around you learn what you need to and step into your next season with the awareness of the experience gained, battles fought and overcame.
Believe your story
I posted a picture on Facebook recently, and the suggestion came up ‘be the first to like your picture, this will encourage others to like it too’. I paused for a while because I had never liked my pictures and articles, this was a new concept to me; nevertheless, I did. I clicked like because I believed in what I had posted and wanted others to see that.
I am making a similar suggestion to you. Your story happened, it may still be happening you need to validate whatever your experiences have been by believing it. In some situations individuals may send the message that your story is not valid, it did not happen as you remember or how you perceived. However, this is your story, you know what you have been through, is going through and how it feels. Believing it could be the first step to you making the decision to change where you are.
Embracing your story teach others to believe it too. If you talk about it do so with confidence, demonstrate the certainty that yes this has been or is my experience