The church response to abuse
Over the years I have met many women battling with regret, they are sometimes deeply saddened when reflecting on the number of years they spent in abusive and toxic relationships. I do not encourage regret because there is nothing we can do about the past except to learn from it and grow. I teach women how to learn from their experiences and grow through the pain of disappointment and broken dreams to become strong, capable and able to live a life of purpose by engaging in fulfilling activities.
Another salient theme is the church’s response to abuse. There seems to be a shared and persistent issue of encouraging women to stay in relationships that have become unsafe for them and their children. Sometimes people quoted scriptures and piled on guilt.
This is how the church should respond to abuse
However, there is a significant component that isn’t considered. Unfortunately, in these scenarios, the needs of the children are often overlooked. Many do not or perhaps choose to ignore the impact of abuse on children.
Children who witness domestic abuse are in effect being traumatised themselves, and we need to develop a community response to violence that will incorporate the impact of the abuse on children. Perhaps this approach will help those in leadership to assist the families to find solutions that will end the violence or help the victim to find a safe place to be with the children.
The risk factors for children who live with these difficulties are higher than those who don’t. Because of the emotional state that it places them in.
The Parenting After Childhood Trauma program seeks to help women who have experienced traumas in the past. The program is designed to give women skills and tools to help them work through their problems and be emotionally present for their kids.
- The PACT program will assist them in
- Addressing their pain and its impact on them and others.
- Help women become more emotionally available to their children
- Empower women to connect with their children and begin to form bonds or rebuild relationship
Additionally, join me for weekly training in the private Facebook Group Wounds that Heal