Forgiveness is not an abstract theological concept. It’s an experience — the kind of event that will change your life. Either for the good or bad.
Many teach forgiveness as a rigid concept, often taking a prescriptive approach. This method is problematic and often alienates those who are grappling with people who show no remorse. Sometimes before the hurt from yesterday has had time to heal, the cycle of pain continues. For many layers of pain makes forgiveness a problematic topic. Helping those in this group needs time, care and sensitivity.
Forgiveness is not straightforward for the woman stuck in pain that the perpetrator refuses to acknowledge. Neither is it simple for the person dealing with an issue that will not receive validation because the perpetrator is deceased.
Let’s also consider the person treating the injuries caused by the narcissist or the wound the church refuses to acknowledge and use scripture to justify.
These and other situations highlight once again that forgiveness is a dynamic process. It changes and grows as the person develops. It heals as they heal and gets a little easier each time.
For those who try to muster enough energy to forgive without healing, finds it challenging. Forgiveness cannot be undertaken as an exercise out of guilt nor can you consent to forgive out of fear. Trying to forgive without healing is not sustainable.
If you are ready to heal, join us at our annual virtual conference and learn the tools necessary to help you walk your journey of forgiveness.