One of the most important gifts that we can give to our children is the gift of a whole and emotionally available parent. Sometimes some fail at providing this because they are afraid of walking the journey of healing. They fear that tackling the childhood trauma might break them. They fear this process so much that they shut down and become unavailable to everyone even their children.
It is important to keep in mind that when we are unable to be present emotionally for our children, they are learning how to relate from us. The guide that we currently use may have come from the script that we got as children. Nevertheless, we have the power to change the trajectory of our children’s lives by challenging and making conscious efforts to heal from the past.
Give the gift of healing
Do not postpone your healing. It is important that you tackle the things that have held you back for years. You have the power to stop cycles of abuse abandonment and neglect that perhaps have been present in your family for generations.
At times fear will tell you that if you begin to tackle long held trauma that you will never be the same. That is true; healing is a journey of self-discovery. Through this process, you will learn more about yourself than any other period in your history. It is a journey worth taking.
Your past does not have to define you. However, failure to process the challenging effects of childhood guarantees that the past will define who you are. It is true that our past sometimes determines and help to shape who we are, but that doesn’t have to be a negative process or outcome. Whether it is or isn’t is dependent on you.
Your children deserve the gift of healing. You are the mirror that they use to show them who they will be. Think about the image you want them to reflect.
Your future deserves to be healthy and happy. Postponing healing robs you of the potential of that future.
We have put together a series of training designed to help you through the process of self-discovery and healing. You can access it here. Healing your wounded self
Additionally, you can join me in our private Facebook group wounds that heal for ongoing support