Self -Sabotage is saying we want something and then go about making sure we do not get it. That might seem contradictory but is the daily reality for many. For example, many know they need help yet ensure they are too busy to get help.
Self-sabotage is rooted in childhood challenges. It is a coping mechanism that followed you into adulthood.
Self-sabotage is connected to the negative messages that you learnt from the abuse you suffered. You would have devised rules to help keep those messages active. For example, you are limiting yourself, i.e. stopping you from achieving at your fullest potential because you are concerned how others will receive it.
Playing small then becomes a way of life. You’ve convinced yourself that it is not safe to grow beyond the people in your circle. whenever this show signs of changing you will sabotage the process.
We procrastinate when we consistently put things off until the last minute. You distract yourself with a seemingly vital task to avoid working on the critical project. Procrastination is often linked to fear and worry. We ultimately feel like we are not good enough and so we put off doing anything.
Perfectionism shows up in decision making. It will discourage you from trying new things and exploring new hobbies. The perfectionist has incredibly high standards which are often unattainable.
• Perfectionism and low –self-worth works together to help keep the individual from progressing.
Another feature of self – sabotage is little self-worth. It tells you that you are not worthy of the things you desire. Sometimes while in the middle of reaching your goal some will make what seems like a perfectly logical decision to stop. The reasoning will appear justified unless you understand the mechanics of sabotage.
Self-sabotage is the unconscious way of trying to avoid facing challenging situations. It is the fear that stops you from progressing, the butterfly in the pit of your stomach that prevents you from setting reach goals. It is the negative message that whispers lies about your worth and stops you from attending to the task that could change your life.