I was recently asked to share my reason for starting wounds to scars. I had to use 150 words to describe my enthusiasm for emotional healing. This exercise was simultaneously challenging and mouth-wateringly exciting. It was demanding because I find it difficult to stop whenever the opportunity arises to talk about emotional healing. Secondly, I am extremely passionate about reaching and helping the many suffering in the darkness of pain. Hiding wounds that have haunted them for years while feeling there is no way out. I want you to know that it is possible to heal from abuse.
What Motivates Me
My healing and self-discovery fuel my motivation. As I interact with women at retreats and speaking engagements, It is very clear that many are suffering the effects of abuse without feeling there is a way out of the pain. These are women of strength, integrity, and drive. They are mothers and employees and corporate executives that all have one thing in common, the marks left over from the pain of sexual abuse or trauma. Some have given up hope of healing; some are not sure what relevance the word of God has to their personal circumstances. When negative messages influence your internal dialogue, it is tough to change that into a positive without help.
I am passionate about helping you to confront those words and move into the place where the promises in the Bible have relevance and meaning for you once more. I want to see you healed and restored. Maybe this website will be one piece of the puzzle; maybe we can lead you to resources that can help you put the other pieces together. I discussed my story further HERE
Time Stood Still.
I had a life changing the experience in a busy airport. The experience came at an opportune time, in retrospect, I was ready for a change. I had spent a significant portion of the previous year going through therapy for sexual abuse; this was by far the hardest year of my life but I was a mom of three, I was completing counselling training, seeing clients, working freelance in social work education and trying to be a wife. I guess you could say it was a busy time.
Towards the end of that year, I had the opportunity to attend a conference on abuse, and the keynote speaker shared her story of sexual assault and for the first time, I was able to cry for myself. All those weeks and months of being too busy to cry came tumbling out. I felt cleansed, free and revived. As I made my way back to the UK time stood still.
I checked in and before boarding decided to use the restroom. I was confidently striding down the corridor when I froze. A man was approaching me on his cell, and he looked just like my abuser. I stood transfixed for what seems like hours, eventually, my brain tried to communicate to my feet but it was too late the message was not going through, my one conscious thought was what if it is him what will I do. This poor gentleman eventually walked passed perhaps wondering about the frozen woman staring at him. When I was finally able to move, I got angry. I got angry on my behalf, and the thousands of others abused but silence through fear and shame. I made a promise that whenever I get the opportunity, I would share my story of healing and help others begin the process of facing their pain and also finding healing.
Healing from Abuse
As I shared above, it is possible to recover from abuse. For some healing is accepting that they will never be completely over what happened there maybe aspects of the event that they will have to deal with at different times.
I encourage you to seek appropriate support if you are currently dealing with the pain of abuse. Counselling is available via your GP; additionally, some local churches have qualified volunteer counsellors who will help you as you make the decision to heal. Alternatively, the Association of Christian Counsellor and the BACP have a list of counsellors in your area that offers a different type of methods to assist you on this journey.
AS you read this post and consider the content remember the promise in Deuteronomy 31:8 ‘The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.’