Pain perpetuates through generations, and the only way to stop the hurt leaking into the next generation is to heal. For some, the knowledge of leaving a different legacy is enough to stir them to action. For others, the responsibility feels like a strain. Understanding the promised freedom sometimes motivates people to act, but they struggle to rid themselves of the yoke they’ve carried for years.
Both see the problem; one makes the decision quickly the other stalls not out of denial but rather out of fear.
When we are dealing with the issue of generational pain, the fear can manifest itself in many ways.
- Identity crisis
Of course, this will not show itself in its pure form. Many who experience childhood trauma are also high achievers. They’re in positions of authority and excelled academically. On the surface, it might seem that this group cannot have an identity crisis. However, pain is no respecter of persons and the fear of failure, worry about what will people say and the fear of change cuts across gender, ethnicity and socioeconomic backgrounds.
The subconscious question for many in this category is ‘who will I be?’ how will this new story define me?’ Can I change my internal dialogue?’ These are strong determinants that often keep many from stepping out and starting the process of healing.
Resolving the crisis
When you give yourself a chance to discover you beneath the pain, change starts to occur. The you that can develop new coping mechanisms enjoy positive self-talk and rewrite your story. But you have the give yourself a chance
This powerful emotion is another barrier to change. Many are furious with the choices of the previous generation and reject the responsibility for change.
According to Ps 103:17 Healing have many blessings. ‘But from everlasting to everlasting the loving devotion of the LORD extends to those who fear Him, and His righteousness to their children’s children.’ That’s a promise for you and the generations to come. When you step out to do the work necessary to free you from the shackles of the past, you have these promises written because we would need them at such a time as this.
Here’s another promise of help in Deuteronomy 7:9
Know therefore that the LORD your God is God, the faithful God who keeps His covenant with loving devotion for a thousand generations of those who love Him and keep His commandments.
You have the opportunity to change the course of the next generation. You deserve to be free from the narrative around your family tree. You can craft a life that is different from the people around you
You can ask questions, you can find your path, you can do what it takes to heal.