It seems natural for some people to encourage others to show strength. Some of these encouragers have never had to demonstrate this kind of courage. However, they feel justified in giving others advice on courage.
It is also easy to tell someone to chin up’, don’t be afraid when you’ve never tested your theory. Some people know the potential of fear but shrink from its intensity and therefore makes no effort to walk through the pain to discover what is on the other side.
These persons dispense advice freely and sometimes responds harshly to people who struggle with despair. With this group, they are impatient and often unforgiving and wrestle with understanding why their opinion is discarded.
If you are struggling with I fear, I understand, the fight is real. The battle to maintain a positive mindset and attitude amid trauma or disappointment is challenging.
However, it is possible to allow yourself to feel the fear and manage the overwhelming emotions that accompany it. Here are three things you could begin to try now.
1. Be patient
Be patient with you, whatever that thing is that has triggered fear it’s real, unravelling it might take time and patience. Permit yourself to take the time that is needed.
2. Be understanding
Show yourself empathy and care. Be supportive of your efforts to understand the root of the problem so that you can create change. Understand that fear might be a learnt response and to get past it you will need to be focus and consistent.
3. Be honest
Be honest with where you are and how you are feeling. Take frequent inventory of your thoughts and feelings. Owning them will help you to be able to let go of them and find a resolution.
There will probably be some element of fear in most areas of life. Applying the strategies above could help.