Truth can break cycles, but it might not work for everyone.
Generational cycles and patterns can impact the truth and how it is received. If you are from a family accustomed to misrepresenting or ignoring reality, then it could be challenging for you to unlearn that habit and develop the practice of telling the truth. Naming and owning things that have disrupted the family can be hard. People are often prone to rationalise why things are the way they are as opposed to facing it and create change.
Sometimes telling the truth will challenge a family’s loyalty, in this place of silence abuse and all kinds of trauma will thrive. Families that are unable to name and change patterns become toxic and this destructive behaviour can cause considerable damage to the generations below.
Breaking the cycle
1. you will need to become radical with the truth, fierce about freedom and protective of the next generation. Sometimes this might make you stand out, and this could feel unsafe especially in families where toxicity and violence exist. It will be necessary to protect and keep yourself safe.
2. Have appropriate conversations with your children. Sometimes the discussion needs to start internally. Start by acknowledging to yourself that a pattern exists.
Investigate
When you notice the patterns, investigate. Exploration of the models might be challenging as sometimes the older generation is closed and often refused to share. Even then this information will be a source of healing and comfort for the person carrying out the examination.
Don’t keep family secrets
Smash the old saying ‘what happens in this family, stays in this family’ when you’ve found out the secrets that have perpetrated through generations breaking cycles means sharing what you know. This information might be the key to help unlock someone else’s pain. It might be the vehicle of change for you and the next generation.
This was a great article and so on point.